I don’t like failure, and I can assume that you don’t either.
Not only is failure painful and humiliating, it usually means that the return on our time, effort, and money is zero.
Unfortunately, as much as we hate failure, it is guaranteed. In fact, the only way that you can avoid failure is if you do not push yourself in any way.
So what happens next? How can you prevail in times of failure?
Well, the easiest answer is to learn from your mistakes. Each failure is a lesson for greatness, and an opportunity to inch closer to success. When you fail it falls upon you to get back up. This is not easy, and sometimes you will need a helping hand.
That is why I have come up with 20 ways to remain motivated after failure, so that you can get back up as soon as possible. So if you are struggling with hopelessness and feel like you are barely treading water, this post is perfect for you.
20 Ways to Remain Motivated After you Fail
1. Take time to heal emotionally
Failure is often heartbreaking, and you won’t get over it in a day.
So if you have just lost out on a big idea, failed on your product launch, been fired by a big client, or filed for bankruptcy, know that you won’t feel bright and cheery for a while.
But until you get to the point that you are fully healed, I urge you to smile. Life is not easy and it cannot be controlled, but be happy with your small victories as you try and get up from a huge failure.
2. Remind yourself that there is no success without failure
If you want to succeed at anything, you need to remind yourself that you will fail several times before getting to that point.
Keep this at the forefront of your mind each time you hit an obstacle or fail completely. And if you feel too afraid to experience the inevitable failures that accompany success, remember that the alternative is a lifetime of ‘what-if’s.’
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley
3. Learn from your mistakes
The best thing that you can do each time you fail is to learn from your mistakes. If you screwed up don’t let that be your excuse to give up. Let your screw up be your motivation to try once again, and this time without making the same mistake.
Every time your mistake leads to failure, you have the unique opportunity to view your strategies and methods, and tweak them until you get your intended outcome.
So if your mistake was having too few trained employees, next time ensure that you have a larger number of trained employees. Some of the best lessons you will learn as an entrepreneur will come from your failure, rather than your success.
“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” – Henry Ford
4. Create a positive mindset
Few people understand the power of the mind. When you fail you need to make a conscious decision to be positive rather than miserable.
If you do choose to be miserable, it will be much harder to get back up from your failure. However, if you cultivate a positive mindset, then you can move on from each failure without losing your enthusiasm and drive.
Remember, a positive mindset will lead to positive results, while a negative mindset will lead to negative results.
5. Do not dwell on your mistakes, accept them
When you fail, your natural instinct will be to beat yourself up. However, dwelling on your failures and blaming yourself for your mistakes is a drain on your energy.
Instead you need to accept that mistakes will occur, and failure will happen. Once you accept this, then you can focus on shaping your success.
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash
6. Find the opportunity to grow
Each failure and setback presents a chance for you to grow. Your job is to find the opportunity in your failure, and turn it into a positive.
Just imagine if Thomas Edison decided to quit on the light bulb the first time he failed. Thankfully, he didn’t quit, and after 999 times of failing and growing from his failures, his invention now graces all of our homes.
Re-evaluate everything once you fail, and look for new doors that you can kick down.
“Keep on going and chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down.”-Charles F. Kettering
7. Choose to be happy
Happiness is definitely a choice; unfortunately many of us choose to be sad. When you fail your natural emotion will be sadness, however, don’t let your failures define your emotions.
Similarly, don’t let your happiness be dependent on your success. Choose to be happy even during the worst times, and you will feel in control of your failures.
8. Use your mistakes to master your art
Once you are comfortable making and accepting mistakes, then you will have the ability to learn the skills that are vital to master your art.
Each time Thomas Edison failed with this light bulb, he learned more about the art of creating the light bulb. With his growing skills and knowledge, he was finally able to master the art of creating artificial light.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison
9. Continue pressing forward
When you mess up, don’t get stuck in a pit of failure. What you need to do is dust yourself off and press forward. By pressing forward regardless of the obstacles, you have the chance to make progress. You can’t change what has happened, but you can try again, this time better than the last.
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” -Dale Carnegie
10. Think about what to do next
Once you have failed at something, you need to figure out your next action. Being proactive is a great trait to have, and it is much better than wallowing in sorrow and doing nothing to change your situation. By making decisions about your actions post-failure, you can start heading towards success instead of getting stuck in failure.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
11. Remember that you are not the only one who failed
When you fail, it often feels like the world is conspiring against you. The moment that you realize that failure is not limited to you; you can motivate yourself to get up faster.
Failure is normal, and every successful person can tell you a bunch of times that they were in the same position. If they could succeed after failure, then you can too.
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”-Michael Jordan
12. Write down a list of your successes
One feeling that closely accompanies failure is that of worthlessness. To combat this feeling, you need to write down a list of all the times that you succeeded. You can place this list on your mirror or at the front of your journal, where you can read it every day.
Now every time you have a crisis of confidence, go back to that list and see that you are capable of success.
“I am not judged by the number of times I fail, but by the number of times I succeed: and the number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I fail and keep trying.” -Tom Hopkins
13. Think back on your past failures
In the same way that you write down your successes, you should write down your past failures. Once you look at this list of failures you will realize something- you failed several times before, and got back up. What is different this time?
“Do not ignore your failures, acknowledge them and use them to motivate you.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” -Joseph Kennedy
14. Get inspired by your mentors
We all have mentors, whether they are athletes, inventors, academics, entrepreneurs, artists, musicians, actors, politicians (joking), humanitarians, or authors.
These people have been in the same position as us, and they can serve as a great inspiration during the tough times. So when you are in the midst of failure; read about them, listen to them, and watch them. Find out what they did to overcome their hardships, and apply that to your situation.
“If I’ve learned one lesson from all that’s happened to me, it’s that there’s no such thing as the biggest mistake of your existence. There’s no such thing as ruining your life. Life’s a pretty resilient thing, it turns out.” -Sophie Kinsella
15. Focus on your other goals
When we fail at a big task, then we can improve our confidence by succeeding at small tasks. So focus your attention on smaller more achievable goals, and succeed at each one of them. This is simple and motivating, and all the small steps that you are taking will eventually lead you back to your large undertaking.
Remember, a win is a win, no matter how small it seems.
16. Visualize your success
Sometimes when we fail, we need to close our eyes and imagine what our success will look like. By visualizing your success, it becomes tangible rather than something out of your reach. Additionally, when you reinforce your positive mindset, you give yourself the motivation that you need to continue on your journey to success.
17. Remember that staying a failure is a choice
Failure is inevitable, and whether or not you remain in a position of failure depends on you. You need to make a choice to persevere through failure; or you will find yourself in a state of stagnancy.
I read somewhere that failure is not falling down, but choosing to stay down once you have the choice to get back up.
“You don’t drown by falling in the water, you drown by staying there.” -Robert Jordan
18. Surround yourself with positive people
If you surround yourself with toxic people, then their negative mindsets will eventually be passed on to you. You need to surround yourself with positive people who can encourage you to get back up once you have been knocked down by failure.
Their positivity and optimism will give you the motivation and confidence that you need to succeed.
19. Take a step back
I know that I said that you need to press forward once you have failed, however, taking a step back before you move forward again can be very helpful.
By taking a step back you can get a clearer picture of where you messed up, giving you the chance to re-evaluate your decisions. Once you have situated yourself, you can start moving forward with strong purpose.
“It’s failure that gives you the proper perspective on success.” – Ellen DeGeneres
20. Get yourself organized
Lastly, you need to get yourself organized after you have failed. By creating a plan for your future based on what you have learned from your mistakes, you can take back control of your situation. This also puts you in a better position to succeed, as you know where you are heading and how to get there.
Failure is rough, tough, and painful; however it goes hand in hand with success. The way you handle your failure will determine if you succeed, and the tips above should help you cope with failure when it comes your way.
Remember to learn from each of your failures, instead of dwelling on any mistakes that have lead up to it.
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I hope you have a positive week, and I’ll see you back here next Monday.